Lessons from my experience* – Part 1 of n

1) Being content in life gives happiness. [Make the most of what you have / get]

2) When you pray, don’t ask anything. Just pray. Things will be taken care off for you.

3) Whether it is your friend or relative, trying to see yourself in them, will only result in a troubled relationship. Understand that each and every person is unique.

4) Newton’s third law – for every action, there is an, equal and opposite reaction – holds good for life too.

5) Baranyasam in Vaishnavism is a good thing to follow. Makes you focus on one God and attain salvation.

6) Extending point 5 to real life / day-to-day living, focus on priorities in hand, would help you attain a better position in life.

7) Do not lie unnecessarily (preferable, not to lie at all!). By following this point, you will face lot of challenges & tension but one can stay away from lot of mega troubles, trust me when I say this!

8 ) Being a cynosure, may work for some but may not work for all. Answer this question before you want attention: What are you going to achieve by being a cynosure? If you do not get a convincing answer, move on.

9) One can be happy with life, if the person, treats it like a portfolio. Overall, is everything ok for you? Then, be happy! Do not expect ‘Return on Investment (ROI)’ from every page of your life.

10) Invest, yes invest time, to understand your religion, custom or belief. There would be lessons which one can pick up and use.

11) Humility, empathy and a smile, would win you loads of hearts.

12) Formula to reign Power and Influence among your group (relatives, friends, colleagues or anybody): Help them unconditionally.

13) Smouldering is not a good thing to follow – vent it out, pleasantly.

14) Do not wound anyone by being acrimonious (acid like words). The person whom you hurted would not forget it ever. I mean, EVER!

15) You become, what you think you are!

16) Selffulfiling prophecy works!

17) Each and every person has his/her own sphere of superiority. So, respect everyone. [Can you beg as proficiently as a begger? Can you show perseverance as shown by a begger?]

18) As a dad or mom, you can wish your son to be an Einstein or Sachin in their field / studies, but, understand that your kid has his / her own sphere of superiority. If one is not good in studies, he/she might be good in something else. Instead of putting undue pressure on them, sit with them and understand their needs and work with them to satisfy those – if they are reasonable enough.

19) One who doesn’t respect his wife, carries no respect for himself, vice-versa.

20) Parenting is second childhood.

21) Read Dalie Carnegie’s book on ‘How to win friends and influence people’ once

22) More you suppress once feelings and interest, the more rebellious they become

23) Be respectful and keep parents happy. You are here because of them

24) At 30 you can be arrogant, egoistic and rude to others & make others life miserable, you will not feel the heat at that time. At 60, you will go to the same people or depend completely on them for your day-to-day living, I have seen this happen!

25) If you are selffish with your kids, no doubt, they will not even wink their eyes, when you suffer. What you sow, is what you get.

26) To sustain a good relationship, whether it is with your dad, mom, wife, brother or with relatives / friends, be open to accept feedback & be open with your feedback. Your feedback will hurt them for a while, but you will be rewarded with a good relationship.

27) Beauty might help till 30. Education might help till retirement. Good IQ / EQ / SQ might help a little further. But Attitude (good), can help all the way in your life.

More to come…

[*For all of the above to work - conditions apply ]

Yeh dosti! Karunanidhi & Prabhakaran:

Karunanidhi & Prabhakaran:

I saw in NDTV, Karunanidhi calling himself a friend of Prabhakaran. Head of State associating himself with a terrorist outfit head! Hmm…what an attitude!

Certainly, this kind of statements by a responsible and experienced politician, who is also the head of state, is troubling to me and would keep the morale of military, police and other security forces high! At one end, these forces are trying to save people’s life from this terrorist outfit and at the other end, their own head of state, openly embracing (at least orally) the leader of LTTE.

Good state to be in!

[To whomsoever it may concern - I only saw it in TV, so I don't know if it was edited or Computer Graphics was used to distrote the truth, I am just going by what was shown. If they have telecasted something wrong and Karunanidhi did not make such comments, I would like to apoligize before hand]

Tamilnadu bandh 23 Apr 09

I appreciate that politicians are showing great interest on what is happening in Srilanka. However, I don’t know, whether it is a genuine interest or the usual nature of politicians to draw political mileage (especially during election period!), I don’t know!

However due to their recent action ‘Bandh in TN’, I am inclined to believe that they are trying to draw political mileage only or rather their selfish nature is coming out clearly.

If they are selfless, then those politican parties, which run their own media houses (TV, print and Radio channels) should have gone off air for that one day. Instead, using this bandh, they tweaked their TV programs – instead of showing mega serials, they started telecasting movies!

These political parties will not black-out their channels and bear losses, however, they would want to make the innocent citizens suffer. FYI – 23rd Apr 09, is a Muhurtha Naal (auspicious day) and many people who had their son’s or daugher’s marriage struggled to get things done on time and there was unnecessary tension (safety, relatives could not come on time, taxi & auto walas charging high prices  etc).

Will not ruling parties take into consideration before announcing bandh or anything? 24 hours of notice is not sufficient for civilians to plan & get things in place. Instead of poking their nose into another country’s internal issue, politicians should start to show more empathy towards their own people.

I guess they have lot of free time and that’s why this is happening. Guys, if you are free, I will give you 1000s of ideas and issues to be sorted out.

I am happy about one thing, though there was bandh, there was no major incident in TN. I should sincerely appreciate the police forces and ruling party to have kept an eye on that part, at least!